THE 'MOURNING AFTER'
They have missed learning some of the basic skills in getting along with others.
They misinterpret social situations that are ambiguous and respond with aggressive behavior.
They have a set of beliefs that emphasize retaliation.
They may erroneously believe that self righteous expression of anger is healthy. Habitually angry children have not learned to put themselves in others' shoes and see things from other people's perspective.
They have not learned the skill of consequential thinking.
They do not know how to break into their rigid thinking and cannot stop making judgments about others.
They have strong "shoulds" for others and get upset when others do not follow their wishes.
They blame others for their problems and do not take responsibility for their own actions.
They cannot allow themselves to see that they are at fault for some of their problems.
Individuals who get upset daily over many small things have a one-response perspective on life.
I have the right to get angry over every little thing. It is right for me to be angry and express it any way that I want.
They have destructive entitlement beliefs that keep them convinced that others must conform to their wishes.